Sunday, 30 December 2012

Difficult decision

Making the decision to stay home or work  can be a difficult process. There is no right answer.  Experts  encourages each woman to make the choice that brings her closest to fulfilling her hopes and dreams.

Some said it is damaging . Others maintain that there is really no evidence to support that statement. It’s shown that children who are in quality day care have increases in cognitive skills, intellect, social skills and social comfort. But how many of these “quality day care “ are there????

Another issue is finances. Many women work to be prepared for unforeseen circumstances like a husband's unemployment, a divorce, or illness.  This is truly important!!!!

Stay-at-home moms always  boast that they have never missed a milestone in their children's lives. But if you don't see the first step, you'll see the second and the third. Nobody wants to be working 10 hours a day and missing your family life. But if you need the money or need to save some money just in case…..

Truth is any women hope to be a parent and pursue a career and they often become depressed when they are stuck solely in a parenting capacity. If the child is mothered by a parent who is feeling frustrated and depressed and empty, that is bad right?  Besides  you can nurture your child and still work. Many full time working mums do that!

Wednesday, 19 December 2012

More research that suggest mothers working is ok for babies!

Mothers do not harm their young children emotionally or socially by going out to work, according to research that offers reassurance to women worried about juggling jobs and family responsibilities.

In fact, girls seem to gain from being in a household where their mother works, according to analysis of families with children born in 2000. In a project funded by the Economic and Social Research Council, a team from the department of epidemiology and public health at University College London found no evidence of detrimental effects on the young children of mothers working part-time or full-time.

The ideal scenario for children of both sexes was for both parents to live at home and for both to be working, a finding that will encourage policymakers' moves to help families stay together, if not critics of the rising numbers of working mothers.

There seemed to be many benefits from both parents working "as long as parents are supported, do not have to work long hours and are able to combine child-rearing with paid work ... In this study they  did not see any evidence for a longer-term detrimental influence on child behaviour of mothers working during the first year of life."

Thousands of parents, mainly mothers, answered questionnaires about their children in infancy and when they were three and five. They covered external behaviours such as hyperactivity, tantrums and aggression, and internal ones, including unhappiness, tearfulness and worry. There were more than 12,000 responses for each stage, and the percentage of mothers working rose from 55% in children's infancy to 60% at the age of five.

The study, which looked only at white children because of statistical difficulties in sampling other ethnic groups, is the latest contribution to the decades-long, often fraught debate about whether mothers' paid employment is good or bad for their children. Among many conflicting messages, there have been suggestions that young children looked after by people other than their parents may be more prone to bad behaviour, that there could be a link between working mothers and overweight children and that working mothers in steady relationships are the healthiest women.

The new study suggested that boys whose mother was the breadwinner had more difficulties at the age of five than those living with two working parents. Girls whose father was the breadwinner were more likely to have problems than when both parents were earning.

The idea that working mothers might act as behavioural and emotional role models for their daughters needed more investigation. Researchers were relying on the evidence of parents alone, but said the results of the next checks, made on children's behaviour at the age of seven, would include the views of teachers.

Thursday, 13 December 2012

Raising Kids is really challenging in Singapore

You don't really know how hard it is , until you have it yourself. And sorry, owning a pet doesn't come close. The truth is that parenthood is both quite rewarding  and terrible at the same time. What makes rewarding is looking at the child & knowing that she’s yours & all the things people tell you. What makes it terrible , however, isn't quite  clear.  There’s the tantrums, crying, and lifestyle changes & a hundred  other things :
1. They have a whole different set of  schedule. They find dirt fun and want to play with it while you're trying to get them to eat!!  They don't want to sleep or eat (you'd think evolution would have thought to program that differently).  The older ones  want  you to tell the same stories , listen to the same song, and watch the same cartoons  over and over and over again.
Having a child is like having one of your  hands  suddenly develop a mind of its own with desires and interests that are different from yours. You're quite attached to it, obviously cant get rid of it. Life becomes a  challenge everyday,  & becomes a constant reminder that any control we think we have in life is an illusion.
2. We want to do everything for them. This is sometimes because of #1 above: children often move so slowly that impatience gets the best of us and we start putting on their shirts, their pants, and their shoes when they're perfectly capable of doing it themselves.
3.We don’t ever want them to get hurt either physically or emotionally. When my baby  was born, I  loved her immediately, but I was  surprise by the strength of the urge I felt to protect her.  However we all know ,lessons had to be learnt one way or other & sometimes pain is necessary.
You have to protect them from genuine threats but also allow them to experience what pain you think they can handle so that when you're no longer around to make it better, they can make it better themselves. But it is painful & exhausting to see them hurt.
Point is  nothing in life is only wonderful (or terrible ), even having children. Some may insist that it is the most wonderful experience. But our experiences never occur in the abstract and thinking of them as if they do, expecting them to be entirely black or entirely white, will only yield unrealistic expectations and thus predispose us to suffer through something that, in the end, really is quite wonderful.
 

Tuesday, 11 December 2012

The wonderful Gifts my Baby already recieved!!!!

People, friends & family have already started sending....

From my bestie a Personalized Baby Portrait - Classic Warhol Pop... I really thought this is one of the best gift!!!! She ordered it online. My hubby loves it so much! real classy like my bestie!!!!

From my S-I-L , Personalized Baby Long Johns a set of 3, really so cute with baby's name on it!!!! Sweet!!!!

From my colleague, Personalized Kids Christmas Ornaments for the christmas tree!!!! She hand made it, painted it with baby's name!!!! I'm so touched!!!!

From another best buddy of mine: Personalized Baby Girl Santa Suit- I tell you, it's so cute! My hubby already took like thousands of pictures of her in it even before the actual day! So lovely!!!!
Thank You everyone!!!!

Tuesday, 4 December 2012

Baby's Christmas Gift

Since my last report, Baby has been smiling ..... My whole family is beyond happiness & everything seems to fall in place!

My husband is thinking of bringing me to Japan to celebrate....lol...... sweet hor?

My friend ask me what am I getting Baby for Christmas.

Must I?

 It's becoming like a big thing now. What are we getting her this Christmas, her first Christmas!!!! I was like she's only a few months old , she wouldnt appreciate any gifts right? What would she know? And they all go like .....woh....

So Am I a bad mother? I just dont get it. Why all the fuss. ???

Tuesday, 20 November 2012

Sides effects of Panbesy and Duromine


According to research, mostly, Panbesy and Duromine is well tolerated, although it can produce some side-effects as it releases catecholamines.
Amongst the most commonly seen effects are: elevated blood pressure, increased heart rate, nervousness, palpitations, insomnia and dry mouth.
Less frequently seen side-effects are alterations in sex drive,  clumsiness, dizziness, diarrhoea,  headache, vomiting or nausea, irregular heartbeat, irritability , fatigue,  and stomach pain.
As for myself I only experience dry mouth, increased heart rate which makes me feel active...lol..

Wednesday, 7 November 2012

Things you might want to know about Panbesy & Duromine.

Panbesy is the brand name adopted in Singapore  for the appetite suppressant Phentermine. Panbesy & Duromine were approved to assist with weight reduction in overweight patients for short term usage, and it is meant to be combined with lifestyle changes.

Panbesy & Duromine works on the neurotransmitters of your brain.  It stimulates your neurons to release a specific neurotransmitter group called catecholamines, amongst which are adrenaline , norepinephrine and dopamine.
This drug functions by directly impacting the region of the brain which controls the appetite, causing you to feel fuller.
Administration and Dosage
Patients are advised to take Panbesy or Duromine for only short term periods . This should be combined with other non pharmacological weight loss strategies, like exercise and healthy dieting. Because of the insomnia risks, it is advisable to take Panbesy prior to breakfast, or one to two hours afterwards.

Tuesday, 30 October 2012

Panbesy & Duromine from Parsons Medical (Singapore) ....I'm looking good again !!!!!

Forgot to mention last.... I got some panbesy & Duromine from Dr last time I went for the whitening jab!
Now after less than 2 weeks I lost more than 5 kg!
I'm almost to my pre -pregnancy weight.
I cant be happier!!!! Look very good now!!!!

When I was at the doc's clinic, I read the Cosmo magazine.
Saw something which makes me really excited.
In a short clip, it says an average woman burns almost 50,000 calories a yr just by shopping.
This would translate to about 4-5 kg of fats...lol....
 I sms all my friends immediately to tell them the good news & arrange to go shopping soon...hahhaa.....

Wednesday, 17 October 2012

Pretty & pink after the whitening Jab !!!

A couple of days back, hubby very nice came home early to take me for my whitening jab.
He knows I like it, it makes me feel pretty & special.
He get to talk to Dr Ong ...hahha.... about babies!!!!!
Funny here I am having my very impt jab & there is my own hubby talking to Dr about baby! Ok hubby really adores baby, she's so cute.

Anyway Dr is nice gave us a few pointers as new parents!
So we left, me looking radiant, & hubby very happy because our baby girl has charmed another male- a doctor this time- haha... he's a proud father!

By the way...... My skin is improving leaps & bounds after the jab.
No more blotchy. It has taken on a nice pinkish look. My hubby said he loves it.

Friday, 5 October 2012

Hubby said I look fabulous after whitening jab :)

I look so bad now, need to lose the weight.I worry about my Baby all the time! I'm afraid I might lapse into some kind of post Natal depression- those are pretty common right?  All my friends told me to go spa, do facial & do the whitening jab.

Ok... maybe I should just pamper myself a bit. After all child birth is not a small thing! My hubby is totally for it.... poor guy, he don't know what to do for me.

He even  google the whitening jab for me! My friends have been talking about for a long time. They said I should try it. I cant do anything before as I was pregnant. Now after baby ...it's different.

Chance upon Rose's blog, she blogs abt this extensively. Lots of information & people talking about it, interesting. My hubby said I totally deserve it as I've given him the greatest gift (that's Baby), so I'm entitled to everything I desire..... sweet isn't it????

I finally went for this jab last week. Went to my buddy's doc. Now after 2 jabs I'm like fair & pink but still FAT!!!!! hahhahaa....... But hubby said I look fabulous !!!!

I'll ask doc for some slimming pills next week!

Wednesday, 19 September 2012

I've got a Grumpy Baby!

My baby is kinda strange....lol.... her looks changes. She used to look like me, now she looks more like my hubby. He's so pleased! But what they say, if boys looks like their mother, they turn out handsome & vice versa! So I'm glad Baby is looking more like my hubby now.

She's grumpy & hardly smile, MIL said she has got attitude like Gong Li ! OMG... for your info, that's her favourite celebrity. And when Gong Li took on our spore citizenship, MIL is so proud. Sigh... if Baby grow up to be like Gong Li or even look like her, my MIL will be proud!
Still I'm worry about her attitude.... why no smiles??? Something wrong with her?

Friday, 14 September 2012

Parenting is tough these days

The latest news that's catching the nations attention is how a parent reported on a teacher who cut her son's hair in school because it's too long. Everyone is criticising the parents.

I look at my baby & was thinking will I become like that? An over protective parent ? I hope not. Families used to be big in the past. People have 5 kids easy & 7-8 is not uncommon at all. Back then parents do not have the luxury of spending too much time with the kids. Kids were left mostly on their own. Parents let the school have lots of freedom in disciplining the kids. Teachers had an easier time then. Parents respected the teachers & school.
These days, many parents have higher education than some teachers , many earn more too. Therefore there is a sense of " are you qualify to take care of my precious kid" syndrome. Well Am I worrying too much,  mine is just an infant now! But kids grow fast, in no time it might be my problem. I might have my own little fights with my kid's teachers....lol....
But I promise I'll try....to be nice. Rather I wont be an over protective parent. My hubby laughed when I announced that! Why is it so difficult to believe?

Wednesday, 29 August 2012

My baby is growing so fast !!!

My maid finally came!!! There was a problem but it's finally solved.
We were actually expecting her months back b4 baby but anyway, I'm glad she's here.
She's a mother too, has 2 kids back home, so she's good with the baby- thank Goodness.

I cant even carry my own kid properly & my MIL is so scare I'll drop the kid anytime.
So she's always in the apt looking out & giving me stress!
My baby is growing real heavy & my arms are sore!
So my maid Lila takes over from me now.

I still look bloated- sigh.....

Sunday, 19 August 2012

It's difficult being a first time mummy !!!

The weight don't go away after a child!
No one prepared me for this. My figure just went out so much, I avoid my mirror.
The full length at home which I loved so much before, I feel like covering it up.
Nothing fits me. I hated maternity clothes I do. It's not cute.
I looked like a whale, trouble is I still do!

My skin is different.The softness is gone, now it's blotchy & looks disgusting.
Time to get back in shape. I am miserable!

Should I go on a diet? Which diet? Only veg & fruits diet? But fruits are sweet & veg cant quench my hunger, I need the energy for the baby! Taking care of her is so tough.
I need a maid. But she's not here yet!!!!! And all the horrid stories i hear about some maids beating & pinching babies......
Exercise, gym? no time to hit the gym.....
I need a facial NOW!!!